6 Things That Could RUIN First Dates
There are many things that could ruin a first date AND you only get one chance to make a first impression.
Though first dates can be a little awkward due to all the nerves and butterflies in your stomach, there ARE things that could ruin first dates.
Being late
This is a general rule that doesn’t only apply for dates but since we’re on the topic let’s see how badly being tardy can backfire. You will automatically seem rude and be regarded as someone who has no respect for other people’s time. Sure there could be reasons like traffic or transport issues but that’s more of a reason to leave early. Besides, being there early shows your date that you’re actually looking forward to your time together AND you get to calm your nerves before your date arrives.
Being distracted
Here’s a tip: Put your phone away.
In fact, it would be helpful to face the screen of your phone to the table so you don’t peep at it every time it lights up. You’re there to get to know your date and have a good time so your focus should be exactly that.
Not listening
There’s nothing worse than a one-sided conversation. We get it, sometimes out of excitement you want to share everything about yourself to them but keep in mind you need to know your date too. So be sure to prompt them and ask questions for them to answer as well. You don’t want to come across as a narcissist.
4. Bringing up your ex
The cardinal rule of a first date: DON’T TALK ABOUT YOUR EX
This is one of the things that could ruin your first dates. If your date blossoms to a relationship along the way, trust me, there will be a time and space for the both of you to plunge into your past. However, the first date is NOT it. This also includes the comments you could tend to make like “Oh, my ex used or his steak medium rare too” or “I like your perfume, I think my ex had the same one as well”. Things like these could change a date to a funeral for your love life.
5. Forgetting your manners
It’s normal to want to impress your date by trying to seem more confident than you actually feel but that doesn't include coming across as someone with a God-complex. First of all, be nice to your servers. Even if you’re unhappy with the service, there is a polite way of addressing the issue. Be the bigger person and show your date that good looks can come with manners as well.
6. Drinking too much
Who doesn’t like to have a few drinks and let loose, right? It’s awesome but maybe save that for a night out with your friends. Especially if you’re the type of drunk that can get pretty loud. Drinks can help calm the nerves, sure, but can you imagine getting intoxicated and embarrassing yourself on the very first date? Probably the quickest way when it comes to things that could ruin first dates.
These might seem like simple tips but you’d be surprised to catch yourself doing it without you realizing it. Simple gestures go a long way, particularly on a date. Doing things that can put your date off can sabotage the potential of what the relationship could lead to.
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