We all know you aspire to be the woman that contributes to the success of her man, the woman who knows just how to please him, and be the woman of his dreams. Everywhere you look, be it in movies or in between the words of the novels, you find romance. We often equate happiness to being in a relationship, because every one of my friends have boyfriends too. But happiness starts from within, and maybe that could be elaborated in another article. And if you’re the last single person in your group of friends, chances are you’re definitely feeling the pressure. For all you know, being single has become some sort of a disease, because if you’re not dating and getting married by 28, something’s wrong with you.
But good news is, nothing is wrong with you (unless you’re repeating all your mistakes and never wanting to improve yourself). Though you need to avoid some of the said mistakes when you’re out there in the dating pool:
1 - Having a checklist syndrome.
This is one of the biggest and most common mistake singles always make. They go into dates with a checklist in their head: their date has to be tall, handsome, muscular, drives a sport car, earns this much, and so on.
The moment you see that they do not fit into your checklist, you immediately shut down and find excuses to leave the date, without ever spending time to get to know the other person. The mistake of only having superficial criteria is what's gonna prevent you from actually meeting good guys who are husband-materials.
2 - Being desperate.
The misconception that society often tells us is: "You are desperate if you're actively looking for a relationship."
That is so wrong!
We know how societal and peer pressure could win us over, resulting in us trying date after date and app after app. But if you have a goal, and you're working towards it, there is nothing desperate about it.
What you shouldn’t be doing is overly attaching yourself to that one guy (or a few, depends) and texting him 24/7, or escalating too much by talking about marriage in the first date itself, or worse, showing up at his workplace or home, unannounced. You’ll not only frighten them, but you’re also pushing away that very distance that could potentially pull you both together.
3 - The self-blame game.
Imagine this. You’re on a date with this guy you are head over heels for, and you move on to talking about the emotional baggage you still carry from your past relationships. The constant negativity that you subconsciously portray may be the last thing you need to draw attention from him to you, in this case, negative attention. That’s because not only are you showing a low sense of self-esteem and confidence, it is also not an attractive quality to have for someone who may just be your potential lover.
4 - Expectations.
This is hands down, the epitome of heartache. When you expect your partner to behave in a certain way, this doesn’t only cause him to be uncomfortable, but you’re also stopping him from genuinely showing the care that he does show, in his own way. There’s no denying that this could very slowly ruin relationships and should be the ultimate mistake for you to avoid, at all times. In fact, if you expect less and just go with the flow of the relationship/friendship, things could, almost always, turn out better.
So, there you have it. This is definitely not an exhaustive list, so have a say in the comments below if you’d like to share a thing or two. Relationships can get really exciting and could open a whole new perspective for you, if you know where to look for.
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