2018 is coming to an end, and I’m pretty sure you have been through happiness, sadness, bitterness, exciting moments and so many other experiences this year. What about love? These are 6 things you need to know when it comes to love, says these 6 people who have been in love before, deeply.
1) Honesty is the best policy
And it’s true, especially in a relationship. When you’re in a relationship with somebody, you’re supposed to be truthful and honest about yourself and in the things you do. If not, it would be like putting on a show for your partner so that they love you for who you are NOT. Coming clean is so much better, according to Michelle, 23, who says that she feels better telling the truth to her boyfriend even when she has done a mistake that she knows may make him unhappy. In the end, he was glad that she told him the truth.
2) Be willing to share more about yourself
Yee, 27, advises couples to tell more about themselves to each other. Don’t let the other person ask questions continuously, because then you’ll start to feel annoyed as it will eventually sound like they’re questioning you. So, be more willing and open to tell your partner how your day went, what happened while you were at the basketball game etc. It helps both parties to know each other even better through the detailed stories.
3) Know what you want from a relationship
Ling, 25, says that you need to know what you want from a relationship. If it’s a serious relationship, set a goal for it such as getting married in 5 years’ time, have children 2 years later and so on. It helps in a relationship because then you both know where you’re heading, so you can work together towards that goal.
4) Someone whom you thought is meant for you is not meant for you
In a relationship, there can be ups and downs. However, if you feel that the relationship isn’t working out, it might just be time to let it go. You both may have come a long way and have been through a lot, but if being in this relationship brings you more sadness than happiness at the current stage, it might just be time to let it go. Because not everyone you thought is meant for you, is meant for you.
5) Nothing can be done without compromise
Compromise. A simple word that can be hard when it comes to actions. When you are single, there’s no need to compromise with anybody, occasionally friends and family, but most of the time, you can do anything you like. However, it’s different when you’re in a relationship because you’re ultimately sharing your life with your other half, so compromise is needed. For example, if your girlfriend doesn’t like you smoking, you may, out of your own will, quit it for her, and for the sake of your health. If 2 of you live together, compromise can come in many ways, such as sharing the house chores without letting only one party do all the work.
6) Love yourself before you love others
This is really important. If you don’t love yourself enough, how do you expect someone else to love you? Without some self-love, you lose that sparkle that other people can see in you, and that is most likely the essence that caught your current partner’s, or will catch your future partner’s attention. Jams (22) expresses that if you don’t love yourself and only let the love come from your partner, what happens if he or she leaves you one day?
Being in love can be warm and fuzzy, but there are valuable lessons to learn as well while sharing your life with your significant other. It’s a big part of life, so treasure each moment.
What have you learned about love in 2018? If you’re ready to find someone new, let us know, because Lunch Actually is always ready to find a match for you. Be prepared to learn more about love in 2019 as it’s a never-ending process.