You’re tired of random blind dates with people you have nothing in common with, and you’re too nervous to actually go out and approach someone. So naturally, many turn to dating apps. Dating apps have definitely helped many people but there is that one stage that everyone suffers through at some point… HOW CAN I GET THIS PERSON OUT ON A DATE?
Cos, what’s the point of chatting online if it doesn’t go anywhere?
Fret not, we are here to help you out!
1. Be Confident
Cliché? Nope, it’s a classic and classics never go out of style. It’s common to hide everything we say behind the ‘lol’. DON’T. You need to have a certain level of assertiveness when expressing yourself (don’t overdo it and come across as bossy though “lol”).
Ladies like confident guys, so don’t be hesitant to ask her on a date! And for ladies, to show that you’re comfortable in your own skin and that you value yourself highly (as shown by your confidence) is very attractive to guys as well!
2. Drop Hints
Test the water before you plunge in. Talk about a café then drop subtle hints like “The portion there is huge, it’ll probably take two to finish” (always bribe with food!) Also, you might want to research on cafés that serve huge portions. Once you’ve dropped the bait, see how they react. If they say “We should go check it out” then seal the deal with a casual but quick date schedule.
Another way to drop casual hints is by saying that you’ve been wanting to see this new movie, say “A Star is Born, “…but all my friends have watched it..” and see if your match will respond. If he’s interested, chances are he will jump to this opportunity to meet you in real life.
3. The “Suggestion”
This has a high chance of working and it’s simple. Ask them suggestions on where to get something. For an example, say your brother’s birthday or your mum’s anniversary is coming up (don’t say “a friend” it can backfire) and you’re clueless when it comes to video games or handbags (mere examples). The added bonus to this is you also come across as someone who is thoughtful and sweet. And when they offer to help you, repay their “good deed” with a meal. BOOM! You have a date.
4. Go For It
Yup. That’s it. Don’t forget this is also a very available option. I mean, seriously, what’s the worst that could happen? If they say no, at least you’ll have an answer and you can move on to the next one, in the words of Ariana Grande, “THANK YOU, NEXT”.
Before you even try to work your angles, you need to have an objective view to the possibility that this person might not want to go on a date (p/s not end of the world) because let’s face it, some only use dating app as an ego booster or training ground and you don’t deserve that. Know what you want and don’t deny yourself of what you deserve, it’ll save your time.
SO, enough with the stringing along because it’s time to take charge and who knows, New Year’s celebration might be very pleasantly different this year!
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