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How to start a conversation with someone you like? Love Expert Reveals!


You see a cute guy or girl. Your heart flutters. You want to talk to him/her. Or maybe, you're already on a first date with them. Many singles have asked us, how to start a conversation with someone I like?

Now, the love experts from Lunch Actually answers!

Have you ever been in the situation that you're on a date and your mind goes blank. Maybe you stutter. You hear yourself speaking but you're telling yourself, 'this isn't what I wanted to say!' You're having that first-date anxiety!

We understand.

Sometimes starting a conversation with someone you're attracted to can be hard, because you want to make a good impression so badly that you get nervous, and the above happens.

Here's 3 ways you can make talking to your crush or love interest easier:

1) Find a common ground.

Stick to some easy general topics, like finding out what they like, what movies they've seen recently, what they're hoping to watch next. Pick up on what they said, connect yourself to it and share a similar story that you may have. Show that you have things in common, and because it's something you know, you'll be much comfortable talking about it!

2) Remember to share stories about yourself!

Don't bombard them with questions, though! Share about your weekend, your favourite holiday place, and then ask them about theirs. Don't make it seem like you're interviewing them to be your husband or wife candidate!

3) Don't put too much pressure on yourself.

"Do I sound silly? Am I wearing the wrong outfit? Is there something stuck in my teeth?"

Take a deep breath, and relax. You may really really really want to make a good impression, but having an agenda puts pressure on yourself. Just chat naturally to them like you would like to get to know a new friend.

Importantly, have fun and enjoy the dating process! Who knows, when you're thinking about how to start a conversation with them, maybe they're just equally nervous about having a conversation with you!

It's about making a good first impression too

how to start a conversation and leave a good impression

As an extra tip, besides knowing how to start a conversation, leaving a good first impression is important too! Smile when you greet your date; because a smile makes you more approachable and likeable. It's also contagious - this means that if you're smiling at your date, it's likely that he/she can't help but to smile back!

You can also try to give compliments to break the ice; by saying "You have a great smile!" to a lady or "You're early! You're such a gentlemen!" to a guy, you'll will definitely lighten up the mood and make your date feel good.

And while you both have started on such a great note, it'll be easier to move on to having a great conversation too!


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